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“Integrity is: when your words and actions match, and are in alignment with your values, beliefs, commitments and life vision.” – Matthew Marzel, via Your Courageous Life
“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back– Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.” — Goethe
“However, being able to question and shift your frame of reference is an important key to enhancing your imagination because it reveals completely different insights. This can also be accomplished by looking at each situation from different individuals’ points of view. For example, how would a child or a senior see the situation? What about an expert or a novice, or a local inhabitant versus a visitor? A wealthy person or a poor one? A tall person or a short one? Each angle provides a different perspective and unleashes new insights and ideas.”
Sometimes we are able to take a new perspective on our own. Sometimes it requires help. Coaches have many tools for helping you change your perspective. Perhaps sitting at a table with your “mentors” and asking them for advice will provide clarity. If analysis paralisis tends to be your issue, take a “trip” forward in time to the completion of your project and reflect on how you got there. If your tendency is to always see the downside, step into the shoes of someone who believes it CAN be done.
If you are stuck and looking for some help, feel free to schedule a call. If you have a very specific problem/focus/block, one sixty minute session might be just what you need to take the next step on your path.
I recently had a conversation with a client regarding her “lack of discipline”, which I equate to will or willpower. She lamented the fact that she just didn’t have the discipline to get up at the crack of dawn and haul her horses to the indoor like she used to. Could I help her get more disciplined?
Well, I suppose we could have worked out a plan to create “discipline”. But instead I asked her about passion. We don’t need discipline to do things we are passionate about. We are energized by the very idea of engaging in our passion. Why was she no longer passionate about getting up early and hauling her horses to the indoor?
In the case of this client, it came down to two things 1) she had become the big fish in the small pond and 2) she wanted a cheerleader. She no longer had anyone to give her constructive feedback and she lacked a good eye on the ground when it came to upper level movements. She also wanted someone “in her corner” and she wasn’t getting this from her husband or the long term/long distance coaching relationship she had.
The client generated a few ideas for getting valuable feedback and also for getting some cheerleading in her life. Time will tell whether she will have a renewed energy for early morning trailering, spring may help with some of that, but , in my opinion, creating pleasure will do more to motivate you than tightening the screws.
Ask yourself…do you lack discipline or do you lack passion!
“It’s better to be at the bottom of the ladder you want to climb than the top of the one you don’t.” – Stephen Kellogg